关于辩论要不要以结婚为目的谈恋爱，正方论据可以说什么？谢谢！！！

女孩从憧憬恋爱开始，就渴望结婚，男孩从接触恋爱开始，就渴望永远。

越成熟的人，越不会乱许诺，乱行动。

不是冷静，是保护自己，保护恋爱的热情。

要论疯狂，谁都可以，但疯狂过后呢？你们一定能结婚吗？

不说性别，先来谈谈，恋爱，到底要以结婚为目的。

Does getting married make you happier, healthier, more integrated into society, and better off in all sorts of other physical, emotional, and interpersonal ways I’ve spent close to two decades making the case that those kinds of claims are grossly exaggerated or just plain wrong Plus, there are important ways in which lifelong single people do better than people who get married But I don’t think there is a simple, one-size-fits-all answer to the question of whether it is better to stay single or get married Let me explain

What the Research Really Shows

The kinds of studies and comparisons used to support the claim that Marriage Wins just don’t pass scientific muster They are biased in ways that make married people seem to be doing better than they really are, and single people worse (as explained in more detail here and here and here) Used as the basis for claiming that getting married benefits people psychologically, the comparisons are scientifically indefensible

What’s more, even with that big, fat advantage built right into the research, sometimes it is the lifelong single people, rather than the currently married people, who are doing the best In some studies, including a few based on large, representative national samples, it is the single people who are healthiest If you follow people over time as they go from being single to getting married and staying married, they end up no happier than they were when they were single Those who get married and then divorce end up, on the average, less happy than they were when they were single Getting married is no royal road to longevity, either

Lifelong single people do better than married people in a variety of ways that don’t get all that much attention For example, they do more to maintain their ties to friends, siblings, parents, neighbors, and coworkers than married people do They do more than their share of volunteering and helping people, such as aging parents, who need a lot of help They experience more autonomy and self-determination, and more personal growth and development

But It’s Not a Contest: No One Side is the Winner

Ever since I gave an address at the American Psychological Association in August, making the points I just summarized, celebratory headlines have multiplied Some claim that single people are happier or that they live richer, more meaningful lives After decades of seeing nothing but Marriage Wins headlines, one would think I should take some pleasure in this whole new sensibility

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The problem, though, is that I’m not actually saying that Singles Win Yes, it is true that there are some profoundly important ways in which single people are doing better than married people And those ways in which we are so sure that married people are doing better – well, often they don’t really hold up to scientific scrutiny

Even so, there are several reasons you should be skeptical, regardless of whether you are being told that Marriage Wins or Single Life Wins:

All of the findings you read about are averages They tell you about what generally happens, but there are always exceptions The results do not apply equally to everyone

The married people and the single people are different people Suppose a study seemed to show that the people who got married were doing better in some way Remember, the people who got married chose to do so If you badgered single people into getting married – especially people who are “single at heart” and embrace their single lives – they might not experience the same benefit To paraphrase one of my favorite cartoons: If I got married, I wouldn’t live longer – it would just seem longer

What is most likely to be true is that some people live their best lives by marrying, whereas others live their best, most authentic, most meaningful and fulfilling lives by living single

Maybe it is even more complicated than that Maybe, for some of us, single life is best during certain times in our life, while coupled or married life is better at other times For example, I’ve talked to widowed people who had very good marriages and have no regrets about the years they spent married, but now that they are single, they embrace that life and never want to marry again

Something else is important, too: We have a better chance to live our best lives if we are not impoverished or disadvantaged in other significant ways That’s true for everyone — married, single, or something in between — but I think it is especially true for single people

In the US, for example, people who are officially married are more likely to be protected economically This happens not just for the obvious reasons that they have a second person who perhaps could support them in the event of a job loss or a decrease in income; and that, when couples are sharing a place and singles are not, the couples benefit from “economies of scale” because they split the rent or mortgage, the utilities, and all the other household expenses Married people are also gifted with more than 1,000 federal benefits and protections, many of them financial

Marriage, in contemporary American society, also bestows couples with a whole array of unearned privileges, social, psychological, emotional, political, and cultural In countless ways that we sometimes don’t even notice, married people’s lives are valued and celebrated while single people’s lives are marginalized or even mocked

That means that when single people achieve the same level of health or well-being as married people, they do so against greater odds I think that suggests that single people have an impressive level of resilience – an admirable quality that is rarely recognized or acknowledged

1、请问你们受邀去参加面试，你会告诉招牌者：如果你们不录用我，我不会来参加面试，或者你参加了面试，你告诉招聘者，如果你们不录用我，我不会进入试用期。会吗？

2、请问在招聘工作（包括国家公务员招考）中面试、笔试和试用期的目的是什么？！

3、一般来说从起点到目的都必须经历一个过程，包括我们的生命，但这能代表过程对于目的来说可有可无吗？

4、请对方解释一下征婚和恋爱的区别？！请问对方恋爱和结婚谁为谁的前置条件？！

5、请问对方那一位在表白或被表白时，严肃认真的告诉对方，如果你不能和我结婚，请另寻他人，有吗？（如果说有，接着问你们现在是否在恋爱？请对方提供电话号码，现场免提打电话询问真假。这个行为的威慑不小，因为极少有人在表白和被表白时说这句话，但有个BUG就是对方恋爱对象在现场看你们辩论，就没辙了。）

6、如果对方提“不以结婚为目的的谈恋爱都是耍流氓”，那么你们就回答：那不是会有很多人都要被以猥亵罪起诉？！

7、请问正确的恋爱观，道德观，价值观等与是否结婚冲突吗？哪里冲突了？请对方举例？

大学生结婚更好一些，首先结婚的人责任感要强一点，也会更成熟一点。已婚人士已经经历过一些事情，他们在很多事情的处理上会更妥当！

Students get married is better, first married people sense of responsibility strong point, also can older Married couples have experienced some things in a lot of things, they will more properly handle!