婚礼上，双方的家长是都要讲话的。有的家长这一辈子可能是头一回站在麦克风后面，面对着这么多人讲话，紧张，却又兴奋，生怕讲得不透彻，便要多说一些。下面的人正襟危坐听上半天，听出大部分都是一些美好的幸福吉祥的祝福话，祝福小两口恩恩爱爱，白头偕老。但细一听，其中也有针尖儿对着麦芒儿。男方家长祝愿儿子勤奋体贴，善待妻子，孝敬岳父岳母，女方家长也希望女儿能够妥善处理家庭关系，得到男方家长的喜欢，其实这话也是说给对方听的，不外乎双方老人都对这个新成立的家庭是否结实深怀忧虑。台上的人哲学家般满怀忧患，忧患之余也不忘了对所有的来宾表示感谢。当然是应该的，台下每个人都是带着钱来的，再说，在天寒地冻或暑热难耐的季节，大家远远近近赶来，实在都是很不容易的。
证婚人是要有的。这是从民国继承下来的惯例。正像梁实秋所说，证婚人“多半是一个机关首长什么的”。除了标点符号，那个由机关首长扮演的证婚人把两张结婚证书一字不落地读上一遍。这是应该的，这证明这对新人的婚姻关系是经过有关部门允许了的。
结婚礼物是要交换的。新郎小心翼翼地从一只小盒子里拿出来，新娘也小心翼翼地从另一只小盒子里拿出来，拿出来的是什么呢是两个金属的小圈，黄澄澄，或是白亮亮的，彼此套在对方的手指头上。
交杯酒也是要喝的。酒是红的，红色和这喜庆气氛相配。杯粗如碗，杯高如李靖手上托着的塔，两只胳膊套着喝。有人担心：这两大杯酒，还不把新郎新娘喝倒了定睛看去，新郎新娘只是薄薄地啜上一层，并不全喝。平剧《花为媒》中有两句唱：“饮过合欢酒，拜过喜神娘。”合欢酒就是交杯酒。交杯酒可是有一段历史了，《礼记》就有记载：“共牢而食，合卺而酳。”这“合卺”指的就是交杯酒。宋代王得臣《尘史》中有详细说明：“古者婚礼合卺，今也以双杯彩丝连足，夫妇传饮，谓之交杯。”
饮过交杯酒之后，是鞠躬。向双方家长，向证婚人、介绍人，向所有的来宾，一律三鞠躬，一鞠躬，再鞠躬，三鞠躬。
凡婚礼，都必得有一个司仪，现在叫主持人。主持人有两种，简单的，一拜天地，二拜高堂，夫妻对拜，共入洞房，就可以了。复杂的，就要一面主持着仪式进行，一面插科打诨，幽默调侃，总有许多饶舌，让新人窘，让来宾笑，新郎新娘好像木偶，主持人倒成了主角。主持人恰像国家接班人，是必须好好挑选的，太严肃、太笨的，会把场面弄得沉闷、呆板，太喜剧、太滑稽，又会把场面弄得浅薄、低俗，就像梁实秋说的：“隆则隆矣，重却不重。”
主持人这活也着实不好干。“某先生某**的结婚仪式现在开始。”这话不对。古书上说：“婚姻者，何谓也昏时行礼，故谓之婚也。”古时候，婚字中已包含了礼字。这却不妨碍结婚仪式仍可称为婚礼。但结婚仪式却不是从新郎新娘面对许多来宾才开始的。可以那么说，在东北，当新郎到女方家接新娘，从端“聚宝盆”，挂窗帘，一直到坐床，婚礼从那时就开始了。
进行婚礼下一项，新郎新娘父母讲话。这话也不对。台下有人就抬头四下看。按照东北人的习俗，结婚的时候，新娘的母亲是不能到场的。
某先生与某**的结婚仪式现在结束。这话又不对。没吃过猪肉，还没见过猪走吗婚礼进行下一项，是所有来宾秃鹫般进餐。这时候，新郎穿着一身烫得发板的西装，新娘穿着一身大红的衣裙，顶着一脑袋碎花，开始挨桌敬酒。这一时刻大概是新郎新娘一辈子最团结的时候，他们肩并肩，背靠背，恰似要对付从四面围上来的敌人，向赵钱孙李鞠躬，给周吴郑王敬酒，像做了什么有愧于大家的事。
东北人的婚礼和天下最一致的是闹房。闹房，是许多人热中的。据说，过去是文闹，现在，已上升为武闹了。
还有一项最古老的，那就是婚礼将延伸到婚礼后的第三天。三朝回门，这是婚礼中最人道的。嫁者，给也，养了许多年的女儿，一下子给了人家，做父母的心里总要空落落的。三天回门，女儿领着新姑爷回来看望一下，对老人也是一种安慰。
以后的日子，就是他们自己过了。
东北农村结婚习俗
在这个快速发展的信息化社会，民族的传统习俗也在逐渐的弱化，西式婚礼等外来习俗的流行不断的冲击着传统的结婚习俗，在农村乡下还可以依稀看到一些传统习俗的蛛丝马迹。让我们来了解一下东北农村的婚俗吧!
一、出发前准备
1、四彩礼：离娘肉(2根肋条)，鱼2条，大葱4棵，粉条4把。
2、新房楼前楼后的大井用红纸盖上。
3、接亲人员佩戴嘉宾花，新郎新娘胸花、主婚人胸花暂时不戴。
4、接送亲人员不算新郎新娘应为双数(一般8人、10人、12人)。
5、接亲车队总数(录像车除外)应为双(一般6台、8台、10 台)。
二、到娘家
1、敲门：新郎敲门喊妈开门、爸开门(娘家人在屋内可难郎 一 下， 不给开门，但时间不宜过长)。
2、认亲：新娘父母站在门口迎接男方接亲人员，由新郎向岳父岳母介绍接亲亲属(从长辈开始)，双方握手寒暄进屋落座，由新娘父母及娘家亲属招待男方接亲人员吃点东西(俗称;不空嘴或甜甜嘴)。
3、求婚：新郎向新娘单腿跪地献花求婚并说几句能打动新娘的浪漫话语，新娘可为难新郎一下，但时间不宜过长。
4、互戴胸花：新郎新娘互戴新郎新娘胸花，并合影留念。
5、新郎改口：新娘父母落座，新郎新娘面向父母站好，新郎正式改口叫爸叫妈并三鞠躬，新郎给爸爸点根喜烟，给妈妈拨块喜糖，父母赏新郎改口钱(一般父母各一份，每份一千零一元，代表千里挑一
的好女婿)，父母对新郎新娘今后的生活说几句叮咛、嘱托、祝福的话，新郎向岳父岳母保证待新娘，孝敬双方父母，新郎新娘与父母合影留念。
6、吃面条：一碗面条两个鸡蛋，新郎新娘相互夹给对方吃。
7、换踩堂鞋：一般由新娘妹妹完成(没有妹妹也可其他同辈或晚辈亲属代替)，新郎将新娘抱上车，新鞋下面铺一块红布，妹妹给新娘穿完鞋后把旧鞋收起新郎赏妹妹换鞋钱。
8、双方亲属上喜车，娘家亲属先上车，男方亲属后上，不许空车。(四彩礼除离娘肉外，其他物品带回一半)。
三、新房：
1、认亲：新郎父母站在门口迎接娘家贵宾，新娘把娘家送亲亲属一一向公公、婆婆介绍，双方握手寒暄进屋落坐，新郎父母及男方亲属负责招待娘家贵宾吃点东西(俗称不空嘴)。
2、新娘改口：新郎父母落座，新郎新娘面向父母站好，新娘正式改口叫爸叫妈并三鞠躬，新娘给爸爸点根喜烟，给妈妈拨块喜糖，父母赏新娘改口钱(一般父母各一份，每份一千零一元，代表千里挑一
的好儿媳)，父母对新郎新娘今后的生活说几句叮咛、嘱托、祝福的话，新娘向公公婆婆保证夫妻和睦相处，孝敬双方父母，新郎新娘与父母合影留念。
3、挂钟：一般由新娘弟弟完成(没有弟弟其他同辈或晚辈代替完成)，挂钟后新郎赏弟弟挂钟钱，钟盒由弟弟负责带回娘家(钟盒不能空，放一个红包或喜烟喜糖均可)。
4、装箱：一般由新娘哥哥完成(没有哥哥其他同辈或晚辈亲属代替也可)，准备一元、五角硬币若干，由主持人安排怎样装箱。
5、叠被：一般由双方嫂子完成(没有嫂子其他同辈或长辈亲属代替也可)，男方被口朝外，女方被口朝里，交替叠好，叠完被双方嫂子握手合影留念。
6、坐福：准备坐福垫或红布一块，放在床中间由主持人安排怎样坐福。
7、合影：新郎新娘同双方亲属在新房合影留念。
四、结婚典礼：
1、主持人开场白，奏婚礼进行曲，新郎新娘入场。
2、证婚人宣读结婚证书(一般安排介绍人或单位领导完成)。
3、拜父母，拜来宾，夫妻对拜。
4、男方主婚人讲话(新郎的父亲或母亲)。
5、交杯酒。
6、娘家贵宾代表讲话。
7、交换信物。
8、来宾代表讲话(单位领导)。
9、新郎新娘代表讲话。
10、结束语。
五、宴席：
1、新人拜席：新郎新娘首先给娘家贵宾敬酒敬烟，娘家亲属由新娘递烟新郎点烟，男方亲属由新郎递烟新娘点烟，拜席结束娘家亲属赏一对新人拜席钱，随后新郎父母给娘家贵宾敬酒，及酒店给娘家
亲属加菜。
2给其他亲属点烟敬酒，顺序根据自家情况而定。
3、送娘家亲属：新郎新娘同所有娘家贵宾在酒店门前合影留念。双方亲友握手告别(一般由男方准备车负责送娘家贵宾)。
4、团圆饭：父母及亲属每人送新郎新娘几句祝福，新娘为父母亲属倒酒夹菜，全家举杯合影(具体由摄像师、摄影师安排)。
东北农村的旧婚嫁习俗
1、媒人撮合，介绍对象。
2、约定时间，相看对象(一般是女方到男方家，双方没意见就算顶订妥)。
3、订婚仪式，过小礼(钱不一定太多，象买东西扔定钱一样)，定大礼(土话叫扒扯财礼)。
4、约定时间，过大礼(包括装烟钱、丫环布钱、要家具、家电、干钱多少多少)，定结婚正日子。
5、双方为婚礼做准备。男方娶媳妇要准备充分，女方相对简单些。
(1)首先定接亲车辆(尽量要好车)
(2)在家办要订厨师。
(3)订油盘手(传菜的)。
(4)订司仪。
(5)订伴郎伴娘。
(6)在家办要订东西两院放酒席。
(7)准备改口钱(千里挑一)。
(8)准备五谷粮(黄豆、大米、高粱、玉米、谷子等五样粮食)
(9)侍候客的。
(10)家电音响、家具等硬件。
6、婚礼
7、接亲(要给小孩压车钱)
8、典礼
9、改口(婆母给新媳妇钱，千里挑一)
10、入洞房
11、宽心面
12、嫂子铺床寤被
13、压炕(小男孩)
14、洞房花烛夜
15、三天或七天回门(回娘家，太阳落前要回来)
16、新的生活刚刚开始。
你要的是克林顿昨天在美国民主党代表大会上的讲话？下面是你要的那部分：
In the spring of 1971,I met a girl The first time I saw her, we were, appropriately enough, in aclass on political and civil rights She had thick blond hair, big glassesWore no makeup And she exuded this strength of self-possession I found magnetic
After the class, Ifollowed her out, intending to introduce myself I got close enough to touchher back, but I couldn't do it Somehow, I knew this would not be just anothertap on the shoulder, that I might be starting something I couldn't stop I saw herseveral more times the next few days but still didn't speak to her Then onenight in the law library talking to a classmate who wanted me to join the YaleLaw Journal, he said it would guarantee me a job at a big firm or a clerkshipwith a federal judge I really wasn’t interested — I just wanted to go home toArkansas
Then I saw the girlagain, standing at the opposite end of that long room Finally, she was staringback at me So I watched her She closed her book, put it down, and startedwalking toward me She walked the whole length of the library, came up to me,and said, "Look, if you are going to keep staring at me, we at least oughtto know each other's name I'm Hillary Rodham, who are you" I was soimpressed and surprised that, whether you believe it or not, momentarily, I wasspeechless
Finally, I sort ofblurted out my name and we exchanged a few words, and she went away Well, Ididn't join the Law Review, but I did leave that library with a whole new goalin mind A couple days later, I saw her again, wearing a long, white, floweryskirt, and I went up to her and she said she was going to register for classesfor the next term I said I would go too
We stood in line andtalked — you had to do that to register back then I thought I was doing prettywell until we got to the front of the line and the registrar looked up andsaid, "Bill, what are you doing here You registered this morning"
I turned red and shelaughed that big laugh of hers and I thought, well, heck, since my cover hasbeen blown, I asked her to take a walk down to the art museum We have beenwalking, and talking, and laughing together ever since
And we have done it ingood times, through joy and heartbreak We cried together this morning on thenews that our good friend and a lot of your good friend, Mark Weiner, passedaway early this morning We built up a lifetime of memories After the firstmonth and that first walk, I drove her home to Park Ridge, Illinois, to meether family and see the town where she grew up, a perfect example of post-WorldWar II middle-class America Street after street of nice houses, great schools,good parks, a big public swimming pool And almost all white
I really liked herfamily, her crusty, conservative father, her rambunctious brothers, allextolling the virtue of rooting for the bears and the cubs And for the peopleof Illinois here, they even told me what waiting for next year meant — could benext year, guys
Now, her mother wasdifferent She was more liberal than the boys She had a childhood that mademine look like a piece of cake She was easy to underestimate with her softmanner and she reminded me all over again of the truth of that old saying thatyou should never judge a book by its cover Knowing her was one of the greatestgifts Hillary ever gave me
I learned that Hillarygot her introduction to social justice through her Methodist youth minister,Don Jones He took her downtown to Chicago to hear Martin Luther King Jr speakand he remained her friend for the rest of his life This will be the onlycampaign of hers he ever missed
When she got tocollege, her opposition to the Vietnam War compelled her to change parties andbecome a Democrat And then between college and law school, on a total lark,she went alone to Alaska and spent time sliming fish
More to the point, bythe time I met her she had already been involved in the law school's legalservices project and she had been influenced by Marian Wright Edelman She tooka summer internship interviewing workers in migrant camps for Sen WalterMondale’s subcommittee She had also begun working in the Yale New Havenhospital to develop procedures to handle suspected child abuse cases
She got so involved inchildren's issues that she actually took an extra year in law school working atthe child studies center to learn what more could be done to improve the livesand futures of poor children She was already determined to figure out how tomake things better
Hillary opened my eyesto a whole new world of public service by private citizens In the summer of1972, she went to Dothan, Alabama, to visit one of those segregated academiesthat enrolled over a half a million white kids in the South The only way theeconomics worked was if they claimed federal tax exemptions to which they werenot legally entitled She got sent to prove they weren't
So she sauntered intoone of these academies all by herself, pretending to be a housewife that justmoved to town and needed to find a school for her son And they exchangepleasantries and finally, she said, "Look, let's get to the bottom lineIf I enroll my son in this school, will he be in a segregated school Yes orno" And the guy said "Absolutely" She had him I’ve seen it athousand times since
And she went back andher encounter was part of a report that gave Marian Wright Edelman the forcethey needed to keep working to get the Nixon administration to take those taxexemptions away and give our kids access to an equal education
Then she went down toSouth Texas, where she met one of the nicest fellows I ever met, the wonderfulunion leader Franklin Garcia, and he helped her register Mexican-Americanvoters I think some of them are still around to vote for her in 2016 Andthen, in our last year in law school, Hillary kept up this work She went toSouth Carolina to see why so many young African-American boys — I mean, youngteenagers — were being jailed for years with adults in men's prisons She fileda report on that, which led to some changes too Always making things better
Meanwhile, let's getback to business I was trying to convince her to marry me I first proposed toher on a trip to Great Britain, the first time she'd ever been overseas Wewere on the shoreline of this wonderful lake, Lake Ennerdale I asked her tomarry me and she said, "I can't do it"
So in 1974, I wenthome to teach in law school and Hillary moved to Massachusetts to keep workingon children's issues This time, trying to figure out why so many kids countedin the census weren't enrolled in school
She found one of themsitting alone on her porch in a wheelchair Once more, she filed a report aboutthese kids and that helped influence ultimately the Congress to adopt theproposition that children with disabilities, physical or otherwise, should haveequal access to public education You saw the result of that last night whenAnastasia Somoza talked She never made fun of people with disabilities Shetried to empower them based on their abilities
Meanwhile, I was stilltrying to get her to marry me The second time I asked, I tried a differenttactic I said, "I really want you to marry me, but you shouldn't doit" She smiled and looked at me like what is this boy up to She said,"That is not a very good sales pitch" I said, "I know but it'strue" And I meant it It was true I said, "I know most of the youngDemocrats our age who want to go into politics, they mean well and they speakwell, but none of them is as good as you are at actually doing things to makepositive changes in people's lives"
So I suggested she gohome to Illinois or move to New York and look for a chance to run for officeShe laughed and said, "Are you out of your mind Nobody would ever votefor me" So I finally got her to come visit me in Arkansas And when shedid, the people at the law school were so impressed, they offered her ateaching position And she decided to take a huge chance
She moved to a strangeplace, more rural and conservative than anywhere she had been Where she knewgood and well that people were wondering what in the world she was like andwhether they could or should accept her Didn't take them long to find out whatshe was like
She loved herteaching She got frustrated when one of her students said, "What do youexpect, I'm just from Arkansas" She said, "Don’t tell me thatYou’re as smart as anybody You just have to believe in yourself and work forit and set high goals" She believed anyone could make it She alsostarted the first legal aid clinic in northwest Arkansas, providing legal aidservices to poor people who couldn't pay for them
One day, I was drivingher to the airport to fly back to Chicago when we passed this little brickhouse that had a for-sale sign on it and she said, "Boy, that's a prettyhouse" It had 1,100 square feet, an attic fan and no air conditioner inhot Arkansas, and a screened-in porch Hillary commented on what a uniquelydesigned and beautiful house it was
So I took a bigchance I bought the house My mortgage was $175 a month When she came back, Ipicked her up and said, "You remember that house you like" I said,"While you were gone, I bought it, and you have to marry me now" Thethird time was the charm We were married in that little house on October 11,1975 I married my best friend
找出之前一起拍过的很多照片和短视频，还找一些朋友录了“嫁给他吧”这样的视频，录一段独白，然后就是制作了。
求婚视频制作之：选一段音乐
不要选歌曲，不要选歌曲，不要选歌曲!重要的事情说三遍，因为歌曲的歌词会分散注意力。之后按照时间，把各种素材不管是视频还是不管三七二十一的铺上去。
求婚视频制作：剪辑处理
挑选，该删除的删除;视频处理，该剪切的剪切。出来的时候不要用一样的时间，不然会让人感觉自己看的不是一个求婚视频，而是一个PPT。
求婚视频制作：精剪调整
理解音乐，选定音乐高潮的节点(催人泪下的那个音乐点上);调节前后素材的时间长短，把感情发展具有经典意义的和视频，调整到那个点上去：煽情啊!如果还想锦上添花，找专业点的朋友帮忙：加点字幕，加点转场特效。
求婚视频制作：单独录一段求婚誓言
对着镜头，手捧礼物，没有钻石，鲜花亦可：别怕自己傻逼样，男人一生总得做几件傻但是值得骄傲的事。至于说什么话：诚恳，诚恳，诚恳。千万背熟台词，千万别看提示版：诚意，从内心发出的声音，难道需要看提示板
最后一个忠告：态度比质量重要，内容比酷炫重要，诚意比文案重要。祝：求婚成功!
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