吵架后，怎么做才是正确的呢？

如果每一次吵完架都觉得是自己的错，那么可以主动向对方认错，然后冷静好好的反思一下自己，让下一次在出现问题的时候不要那么冲动，首先要面对的是该解决的问题，而不是对另一个人发脾气。

一、可以主动认错

吵完架后，如果真的发现是自己的错，那么作为一个负责任的人，你应该去主动认错。如果对方足够大度，相信也会原谅你的，但是一定要注意你的道歉的态度要诚恳，不然别人感受不到你的诚意，也是不会原谅你的，反而你可能会觉得别人小心眼。这种认错是发自内心的认错，而不是口头上简简单单的认错，敷衍了事，别人肯定是不会接受的。

二、可以弥补和反思自己的过错

既然已经吵完架了，时间也不能够逆转，你可以道歉，然后再进行弥补。弥补的方式可以根据你吵架的事情的严重性来判断，如果吵得非常厉害，别人已经心灰意冷，那么，这个时候你就应该弥补一份大礼，或者是用心的为别人做一件事。事后，也要认真反思自己的错误，想一下到底哪一步出了错，是因为自己说话不经过脑子，伤害到了别人，还是自己太过固执，又或者是自己强词夺理呢，总之，要从这一次的事件当中，收获到一些东西，避免在下一次交谈中出现吵架的情况。有话好好说嘛，干嘛非要吵架呢？

如果是对方态度过于强硬，那么你软下来，别人也就没了气势。如果非要硬碰硬，只会伤害到彼此的心。希望大家都能够记住一句话：如果两个人之间出现了问题，那么两个人应该共同面对的是这个“问题”，而不是和对方吵个不停。吵架并不能够解决问题，还会伤心，一定要冷静下来哦。

have words with sb 与…吵嘴，口角

argue with sb; 跟某人辩论

quarrel with sb与某人吵架

单词解析：

1、words 读音：英 [wɜ:dz]   美 [wɜ:dz]  

n字( word的名词复数 );（说的）话;诺言;口令

2、argue 读音：英 [ˈɑ:gju:]   美 [ˈɑ:rgju:]  

vt坚决主张;提出理由证明;说服，劝告;表明，证明

vi争论，辩论;提出理由

第三人称单数： argues 现在分词： arguing 过去式： argued 过去分词： argued

3、quarrel 读音：英 [ˈkwɒrəl]   美 [ˈkwɔ:rəl]  

n争吵，口角;反目;抱怨…的原因（理由）;[史]方镞箭，角镞箭

vi争辩，争吵;不同意;挑剔;责备，埋怨

第三人称单数： quarrels 复数： quarrels 现在分词： quarrelling quarreling 过去式： quarreled quarrelled 过去分词： quarreled quarrelled

扩展资料：

单词用法

一、argue

v (动词)

1、argue的基本意思是“争”,可以是双方为某事而争吵或争论; 也可以是单方运用事实或道理坚持自己的主张或证明自己的观点; 还可以是说服他人同意自己的观点。可以是激烈的争论; 也可以是沉着的辩论; 还可以是晓之以理的说服、劝说。argue还可表示为某事的真实性提供令人信服的根据,这时常可译作“说明”“表明”“显示”。

2、argue作不及物动词时常接介词短语表示附加意义; 表示“为…而争论”时接 about , on或over; 表示“为反对…而争论”时接against; 表示“为赞成…而争论”时接for; 表示“与…争论”时接with。

3、argue用作及物动词时,可接the matter, the point, the question之类的名词作宾语,也可接that引导的从句(有时可用虚拟语气)。

4、argue作“说服”“劝说”解时,接out of表示“拒绝”,即“不做某事”; 接in表示“采纳”,即“做某事”。

5、argue作“表明”解时,可接以“to be+ n/adj ”作补足语的复合宾语。

6、argue还可用于引出直接引语。

二、quarrel 

1、n (名词)

（1）quarrel的基本意思是“争吵,吵架,不和,口角”,指两人或多人之间愤怒的辩论,常指为琐事进行的争吵。

（2）quarrel也可指“抱怨某人〔事物〕的原因或理由”。

（3）quarrel常与介词with或against连用。

2、v (动词)

（1）quarrel用作动词的意思是“争吵,争辩”,引申可表示“不同意或挑剔某事物”。

（2）quarrel是不及物动词,常与介词with搭配使用。

Dear mom and dad, i'm sorry i 've only got 50 in my math test I think that was mainly because i didn't realize the importance of this test I must study harder form then on and make you all feel proud of me The second reason of the poor score is that I couldn't understand what the teacher said in class I should do my math homework everyday and practise them, so that my math will be better Dear mom and daddy,don't be angry okay I'll be a better student and get straight A's in my test Your son Li Kai

和某人吵架

Quarrel with sb

和某人因为某事吵架

Quarrel with sb for sth

1quarrel

['kwɔ:rəl]

n

争吵，吵架，口角

不和，不睦

争吵原因

vi

争吵；不和：

This newly wedded couple are always quarreling

这对新婚夫妇总是吵架。

挑剔；埋怨：

Don't quarrel with your fate You should take it into your own hands

不要埋怨命运，你应该掌握自己的命运。

近义词:

wrangle altercation squabble spat

反义词:

agreement harmony

短语:

espouse someone's quarrel 帮助某人争吵；为某人鸣不平；为某人报仇

fasten a quarrel upon (或 on) someone 向某人找茬儿吵架，向某人寻衅

fight someone's quarrel (for him) 为某人鸣不平；帮助某人争辩(为了主持公道或帮助某人取得赔偿等)；帮某人报仇

find quarrel in a straw 找茬儿，挑剔，吹毛求疵

have no quarrel against (或 with) 对…无所责难；没有理由抱怨

in a good quarrel 争吵得有理，有正当争吵的理由

patch (或 make)up a quarrel 暂修旧好，暂时和解，暂停争吵

pick(或 seek) a quarrel with someone 借故寻衅，向某人挑衅；故意和某人争吵

quarrel of long standing 世仇；宿仇

take up a quarrel

参加争吵

排解，调停 [莎士比亚语]

变形：

vi quarreled或 relled quarreling或quarrelling

quarrel2 ['kwɔrəl]

n

(古代用石弓发射的)方镞箭

(格窗的)方形玻璃，菱形玻璃

有棱锥形头的工具(如石匠用的方头凿)

你好，很高兴为你解答，答案如下：

吵架不能解决任何问题。

A fight can not solve any problem

希望我的回答对你有帮助。

1冷静下来。如果您处于情绪激动的状态下，很难理性地处理问题。因此，您需要先冷静下来，尽可能保持冷静和理智。

2换位思考。尝试从对方的角度去看问题，并探究对方的想法和需求，这可以帮助您更好地理解对方，并且达成更好的沟通和解决问题的方案。

3表达自己的感受。在谈话中，您可以表达自己的感受和想法，但是需要注意措辞，尽量避免使用攻击性的言辞。

4尊重对方。在交流中，您需要尊重对方，避免使用挑衅性的言辞，保持礼貌和平和的态度。

除了以上建议，我认为了解如何有效沟通也是很重要的。对于沟通的技巧和方法，您可以自行了解并学习，例如：倾听对方、表达自己、理解对方、解决问题等。

总之，处理吵架需要一定的技巧和方法，如果您遇到了困难，也可以寻求专业的心理咨询师或其他专业人士的帮助。希望我的建议能对您有所帮助。

How to be a leader

　如何做一个成功的

　[1]Being considered a leader in our society is the ultimate compliment "Leadership has become the universal vitamin C pill," says psychologist David Campbell of the Center for Creative Leadership in Colorado Springs, Colo "People seem to want megadoses "

　[1] 被人认为是一个在我们社会里是一种非常高的赞誉。科罗拉多州的科罗拉多斯普林斯“创造性领导研究中心”的心理学家戴维·坎贝尔说：“领导能力已成为普遍适用的维他命C药片，看起来人们想要成千上万片的剂量。”

　[2] No wonder Leadership bestows power, commands respect and, most important, fosters achievement Unlike vitamins, though, leadership skills can't be easily gulped down They must be carefully cultivated

　[2] 这毫不奇怪。领导能力带来权力，赢得尊重，而最重要的是，它带来成就。但与维他命不同的是，领导能力并不是轻易可吞下去的，它们需要仔细培养。

　[3] Contrary to popular belief, most good leaders are made, not born They hone their skills in their everyday lives But which do they cultivate How do they (and how can you) get others to follow

　[3] 和一般的观念相反，绝大多数出色的是后天选就而不是先天生成的。他们在日常的生活中炼就了他们的技能。

　[4] Always give credit Many leaders note that the most efficient way to get a good performance from others is to treat them like heroes Giving public credit to someone who has earned it is the best leadership technique in the world It is also an act of generosity that's never forgotten

　[4] 经常赞扬别人。很多***物指出，让别人出色工作的最有效的办法是象对待英雄似地对待他们。世界上的领导技巧是当有人取得成就时就当众赞扬他们。这也是一种人们永远不会忘记的慷慨行为。

　[5] Giving credit is more effective than even the most constructive criticism, which often hurts rather than helps Kenneth Blanchard, co-author of The One-Minute Manager, agrees "Catch people doing something right!" he says Then tell everyone about it The loyalty you will generate is arguably the most important currency a leader has

　[5] 给予赞扬比即使是最有建设性的批评更有效。这种批评常常会伤害人，而不是帮助人。《一分钟经理》一书的作者之一肯尼思·布兰查德也这样认为：“注意人们做得对的时候，然后把这告诉大家。这样你所引发的忠诚很可能是一个所能拥有的最重要的成功保证。

　[6] Take informed risks "The best leaders know that taking a risk is not a thoughtless exercise," says management consultant Marilyn Machlowitz "Sky divers don't go up in an airplane without checking the parachutes beforehand"

　[6]冒预料中的风险。“的都知道冒风险并不是一种鲁莽的行为。”管理顾问玛里琳·马克洛维茨这样说，“跳伞者在没有检查降落伞是否好用之前是不会上飞机的。”

　[7] Because the idea of risk also carries with it the possibility of failure, many of us tend to wait for others to take charge But if you want to be a leader, you must learn to fail-and not die a thousand deaths Pick yourself up and start all over again

　[7] 由于冒风险也包含了失败的可能性，我们中很多人就倾向于让人们带头去冒险。但是，如果你想成为一个，你就必须学会失败--但不是一受挫折就躺倒不干，而是跌倒了再爬起来，一切从零开始。

　[8] Show the way In 1965, Lee Ducat was a Philadelphia homemaker with a child who had just been found to have diabetes Ducat tried to reach out to other mothers of diabetic kids, but at first no one wanted to talk

　[8] 以身作则。李·杜坎特是费城的一个家庭妇女，1965年，她的一个孩子被确诊为得了糖尿病。杜坎特想和其他有糖尿病孩子的母亲交往。但一开始没有人愿意和她深入交谈。

　[9] Finally Ducat managed to find three other mothers willing to share their experience, and from that beginning she went on to found and lead the Juvenile Diabetes foundation, which currently has 150 chapters worldwide Ducat also formed and now heads the National disease Research Interchange, which procures human tissues for vital research Lee Ducat's secret Being a role model

　　[9] 后来，杜坎特终于设法找到了三个愿意彼此分享经历的母亲，自此以后，她再接再励，建立并领导了“青少年糖尿病基金会。”现在该基金会在全世界已有150个分会。杜坎特还建立并领导了“全国疾病研究交流中心”，核中心设法获得供生命研究用的人体组织。杜坎特成功的秘密是什么？身体力行。

　[10] "Have you ever noticed that if you smile at people, they smile back" she asks "Well, if you're giving, people want to give right back If you're sure-footed, they want to follow in your footsteps If you're confident about reaching a goal, others echo that confidence and try to achieve it for you"

　[10] 她这样问道：“你是否注意到，如果你向人们微笑，他们也会向你报以微笑吗？”是的。如果你给予别人，别人也会给予你。如果你的步伐坚定，人们就会跟从你。如果你对达到一个目标充满信心，其他人就会同样具有信心并会试着和你一起去实现它。

　[11] "The best thing you can do is to get followers to mirror your actions by being what you wish them to be"

　[11]“你能做的的事情是得到这样一些跟随者，他们仿效你的行为，成为你所希望的那种人。”

　[12] Keep the faith Successful leaders often say that if you trust others to do well, they will If, on the other hand, you believe your people will fail, they will probably meet your expectations as well Businessman-philanthropist W Clement Stone suggests that you express your faith in a letter He says the executive who writes of faith in and commitment to his salespeople can motivate them to break records; the teacher who writes individual notes of encouragement to students can lead them to extraordinary heights Having faith in someone gives him self-confidence and pleasure It may sound corny, but the experts agree it works

　[12] 坚持信念。成功的常说，如果你相信别人能干好，他们就会干好。反之，如果你相信你的人会失败，他们可能真的会和你想像的一样失败了。信奉博爱主义的企业家克莱门特·斯通建议你以写信的方式来表达你对别人能获得成功的信念。他说，那些给推销员写信表示信任并给推销员一定的自主权的们，可以鼓励推销员打破他们原有的推销记录：那些给学生写鼓励性评语的教师能够把他们的学生引向非凡的高度。对别人抱有信心能给予他自信和快乐。这可能听起来似乎是陈词滥调，但专家们同意这确是有效的。

　[13] Get a compass People don't follow leaders who lack direction Estee Lauder, founder of the cosmetics company, has led thousands of employees to great success She claims that every business leader she knows puts a clear picture of what he wants to achieve in his mind and stays focused on the picture "People want to follow those who promise-and deliver-success," she says

　[13] 有明确的目标。人们不会跟从那些没有方向感的领导。埃斯蒂·劳德--埃斯蒂· 劳德化妆品公司的创始人引导了她的成千上万的雇员走向巨大的成功。她说，她所知道的每一个商界***在心中都有一幅他想要达到的目标的清晰图画，并总是瞄着这一图画。她说：“人们愿意跟从那些许诺成功和带来成功的人。”

　[14] Act the part Good leaders have learned to sound and look like winners They may sometimes doubt themselves, but they don't show it, says management consultant Paula Bern They act as if they know where they're going

　[14] 扮演角色。好的都学会了怎样听起来和看起来象个胜利者。他们有时可能也会怀疑自己，但他们并不显露出来，管理顾问葆拉·伯恩说。他们显得好象很清楚自己在走向何方。

　[15] Leaders also know that appearance and manners count They are usually pleasant to be with; their speech is polished , their demeanor unruffled and assured

　[15] ***物也知道外表和举止很重要。他们常常是和蔼可亲，谈吐文雅，举止稳重，信心十足。

　[16] Be competent Knowledge is power, the saying goes, and the best leaders know that their savvy and proficiency are part of their charisma Competence galvanizes people, and will make them look to you for guidance and direction

　[16]要有竞争性。常言说，知识就是力量。而最出色的***物都知道他们的见多识广和对专业的精通是他们的非凡魅力的一部分。具有竞争性能促进人们向你寻求引导和方向。