结婚好还是单身好？

男大当婚女大当嫁，绝大多数人会选择结婚。……但是也有的人喜欢单身生活，觉得“单身真好”。这些人之所以会如此认为，是因为他们觉得单身生活不必承担家庭责任、单身生活不用做更多家务，以及单身生活无需为夫妻吵架而烦恼这三方面原因。

1，单身生活不用做更多家务。

结婚之后，家务活有很多，自己在工作之余还要忙家务，非常辛苦。……单身生活状态下，没有太多家务活，而且只要自己感到满意，就可以不做家务活，这样的生活状态显然会令自己感到更加轻松，进而产生出“单身真好”的感觉。

2，单身生活不用为夫妻吵架而烦恼。

结婚以后虽然夫妻双方可以互相扶持，共同面对生活，但是因为彼此之间存在的不同之处，产生矛盾甚至于吵架，是在所难免的。这会令自己感到烦恼。……但是单身生活有效避免了这个问题。……单身状态下，自己一个人生活，不必为夫妻吵架的事情烦恼，每天都开开心心，这样的生活状态会让自己感到更舒适、更满足。

3，单身生活不必承担家庭责任。

结婚以后就要承担家庭责任，这对自己来说是一个负担。……单身生活状态之下，自己没有成家，也就不必承担家庭责任。……因为生活当中没有什么负担，自己会感到更加轻松畅快，于是就会感觉“单身真好”。……正是因为上述几种情况，有的人才会感觉单身生活更加舒适。但一个人生活毕竟存在很多不便，因此对于绝大多数人来说，最终还是会选择结婚的。

我身边也有一个同事是未婚生子的，现在过的比较凄惨，一个人照顾孩子。

好多人认为恋爱还是结婚还是生孩子，都只是人生的自由选项而非必选项。

人一生有很多重要的事情，恋爱和结婚并不是人生的最重要且唯一重要的事情，不是你人生的全部。

有时间的时候，要读书提升自己，健身锻炼，努力工作挣钱，自强自立，要有一技之长，让自己在经济上能自给自足、不依靠他人，在精神上充盈自信、坚强独立，经济和精神脱 贫，比肉体上脱单更为重要。

不要着急，不要慌张，爱情幸福，无关年龄大小、时间节点，当你遇上真爱时，就是最好的年纪、最好的时间。

一辈子不结婚的好处

1、可以全心工作，事业比婚姻更牢靠其实事业与婚姻相比，具有更牢固的优点因为婚姻即使你付出了自己的毕生心血，也不能完全把它拴住但是事业就不同了，只要你加倍努力一些就有意想不到的收获在生存方面，事业也会比婚姻更加可靠一些。

2、可以自由自在，生活也更加随心所欲一个人意味着做任何事情都很自由，但是结婚就意味着各种规矩，比如婆媳相处、母子相处、夫妻相处都要规规矩矩才行所以相比之后，单身可以随心所原。

3、人际关系简单从容，不需要做孩奴和家奴一个人的生活既不需要面对另外一个家庭，也不需要处理各种麻烦的人际关系，甚至很多琐碎的礼尚往来都可以省略同时单身生活也没有孩子的捆绑，所以你也可以不要做家奴。

4、不用辛苦生儿育女，永葆年轻的身心因为一个人生活并不需要生孩子，所以有大量的时间和金钱来保养自己的容颜。

5、可以一直开心恋爱，随时随地保鲜爱情。

当然什么事情都是两面的，一辈子不结婚也没有办法体验到家庭生活的温暖和温馨，而且年纪大了容易感到孤独。

单身好还是恋爱好呢？这个问题可谓是仁者见仁，智者见智，一千个人就有一千个哈姆雷特。我个人觉得，单身有单身的好处，恋爱有恋爱的甜蜜。关键是你自己到底喜欢选择哪一种生活方式，自己喜欢的生活方式就是最好的。

我以前单身的时候，生活很自由，过得很随意，每天上班下班，想睡觉就睡觉，想出去玩就出去玩，无拘无束，可谓是很安逸平静，后来结婚了，各种琐事一大堆，经常吵架闹矛盾，弄得焦头烂额，离婚后恢复了平静的生活，所以对于我来说，还是单身更适合我。单身的生活平静而安逸，是我想要的生活。

单身的好处与坏处

1、时间自由

单身的好处之一就是时间自由支配，无拘无束，睡觉了不会有人来打扰你，也不用去操心夫妻关系的维持。

2、不用担心人际关系

一旦恋爱结婚以后，就要操心人际关系问题，特别是女同事的关系如果太过于亲密了点，就有可能引起家庭矛盾，说话都要处处留心。

最让人头疼的是，老婆和父母之间的矛盾，似乎婆媳是天地，对于有些事情，本来就没有什么是非对错，一边是妈，一边是老婆，自己处在中间真的很难。

最要命的是遇到两个爱翻旧账的女人，一天到晚吵不完的架。

恋爱的好处与坏处

1、感情生活

恋爱结婚了，感情生活是比较甜蜜的，古人就是说嘛，人生最得意的莫过于三件事，一是金榜题名时，二是洞房花烛夜，三是他乡遇故知。

2、生活压力

至于生活压力，主要就是恋爱结婚以后，开销就会增加，各种开销都会大幅度提升，有时候老婆这个要钱，那个要钱，有些是夫妻共同开支，有些钱则是子女教育医疗等开支，不谈女朋友，不费钱，一旦恋爱，就会晓得钱不够用的滋味。

我个人觉得，单身有单身的好处，恋爱有恋爱的好处，主要还是看你自己想要什么样的生活。

生活就像围城，里边的人想出来，外边的人想进去。

你好，这个问题的答案因人而异，因为每个人的价值观、生活方式和个人情况都不同。有些人可能会选择独立生活，而有些人则可能更喜欢与他人一起生活。

一些人可能会选择单独生活的原因可能包括个人偏好、职业需要、健康状况、社交因素、家庭情况等。独立生活可以让个人有更多的自由和隐私，并且可能会使个人更加独立自主和自给自足。此外，单独生活还可以让个人更好地掌控自己的生活，避免生活中的社会压力和情感依赖。

另一方面，有些人可能更喜欢与他人一起生活。与他人一起生活可以让个人有更多的支持、陪伴和社交互动，并且可能会使个人感到更加快乐和满足。此外，与他人一起生活还可以让个人更好地了解和接触不同的文化和社会群体，从而拓展个人的视野和经验。

总之，是否选择独立生活还是与他人一起生活，取决于个人的价值观、生活方式、健康状况、家庭情况、职业需要等多种因素。最重要的是，每个人都应该根据自己的情况和需要做出最适合自己的决定，并在生活中找到自己的意义和满足感。

祝你生活幸福。

Does getting married make you happier, healthier, more integrated into society, and better off in all sorts of other physical, emotional, and interpersonal ways I’ve spent close to two decades making the case that those kinds of claims are grossly exaggerated or just plain wrong Plus, there are important ways in which lifelong single people do better than people who get married But I don’t think there is a simple, one-size-fits-all answer to the question of whether it is better to stay single or get married Let me explain

What the Research Really Shows

The kinds of studies and comparisons used to support the claim that Marriage Wins just don’t pass scientific muster They are biased in ways that make married people seem to be doing better than they really are, and single people worse (as explained in more detail here and here and here) Used as the basis for claiming that getting married benefits people psychologically, the comparisons are scientifically indefensible

What’s more, even with that big, fat advantage built right into the research, sometimes it is the lifelong single people, rather than the currently married people, who are doing the best In some studies, including a few based on large, representative national samples, it is the single people who are healthiest If you follow people over time as they go from being single to getting married and staying married, they end up no happier than they were when they were single Those who get married and then divorce end up, on the average, less happy than they were when they were single Getting married is no royal road to longevity, either

Lifelong single people do better than married people in a variety of ways that don’t get all that much attention For example, they do more to maintain their ties to friends, siblings, parents, neighbors, and coworkers than married people do They do more than their share of volunteering and helping people, such as aging parents, who need a lot of help They experience more autonomy and self-determination, and more personal growth and development

But It’s Not a Contest: No One Side is the Winner

Ever since I gave an address at the American Psychological Association in August, making the points I just summarized, celebratory headlines have multiplied Some claim that single people are happier or that they live richer, more meaningful lives After decades of seeing nothing but Marriage Wins headlines, one would think I should take some pleasure in this whole new sensibility

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The problem, though, is that I’m not actually saying that Singles Win Yes, it is true that there are some profoundly important ways in which single people are doing better than married people And those ways in which we are so sure that married people are doing better – well, often they don’t really hold up to scientific scrutiny

Even so, there are several reasons you should be skeptical, regardless of whether you are being told that Marriage Wins or Single Life Wins:

All of the findings you read about are averages They tell you about what generally happens, but there are always exceptions The results do not apply equally to everyone

The married people and the single people are different people Suppose a study seemed to show that the people who got married were doing better in some way Remember, the people who got married chose to do so If you badgered single people into getting married – especially people who are “single at heart” and embrace their single lives – they might not experience the same benefit To paraphrase one of my favorite cartoons: If I got married, I wouldn’t live longer – it would just seem longer

What is most likely to be true is that some people live their best lives by marrying, whereas others live their best, most authentic, most meaningful and fulfilling lives by living single

Maybe it is even more complicated than that Maybe, for some of us, single life is best during certain times in our life, while coupled or married life is better at other times For example, I’ve talked to widowed people who had very good marriages and have no regrets about the years they spent married, but now that they are single, they embrace that life and never want to marry again

Something else is important, too: We have a better chance to live our best lives if we are not impoverished or disadvantaged in other significant ways That’s true for everyone — married, single, or something in between — but I think it is especially true for single people

In the US, for example, people who are officially married are more likely to be protected economically This happens not just for the obvious reasons that they have a second person who perhaps could support them in the event of a job loss or a decrease in income; and that, when couples are sharing a place and singles are not, the couples benefit from “economies of scale” because they split the rent or mortgage, the utilities, and all the other household expenses Married people are also gifted with more than 1,000 federal benefits and protections, many of them financial

Marriage, in contemporary American society, also bestows couples with a whole array of unearned privileges, social, psychological, emotional, political, and cultural In countless ways that we sometimes don’t even notice, married people’s lives are valued and celebrated while single people’s lives are marginalized or even mocked

That means that when single people achieve the same level of health or well-being as married people, they do so against greater odds I think that suggests that single people have an impressive level of resilience – an admirable quality that is rarely recognized or acknowledged

就我个人而言，我觉得结婚生子是一件必要的事情，所以我还是希望一个人能成家立业，有自己的家庭，有自己的延续

虽然觉得不一定非得经历结婚生子这些事情，做个自由人也许会不错。可反观整个人类的发展进程，一辈辈一代代就这样延续下来的，就算别得什么也不说，光老祖宗传下来这个传统习惯，世俗讲究，如果有人不依此而行，就必将会受到别人的嘲讽或另眼相看，甚至有可能被有些人说成是异类，或有病。总之，你就是个特殊人物。

当然，我们如果都选择单身而又拒绝生育的话，那我们这个社会还怎么发展下去？肯定是要有人类的繁衍生息，才不至于断代而消亡。

所以，从大趋势而言，结婚生子天经地义，是再正常不过的事情了。我们无需再去探讨多么高深得原由。

我们生而为人就应做到一个人应尽得所有义务，或许这样说又有人不爱听了，他或许认为偏就不去尽这些义务，就爱独来独往过自由自在得单身生活。是呀，确实也没有人能真正干涉到你，独行侠其实也不赖。可我们大多数人，或者说百分之九十多的人都喜欢找到自身伴侣并结婚生子。而且也是我们这些大多数人所从中获得的幸福快乐是最为珍贵得，最能受到最广大的人们所支持得。单就这点而言，对于结婚生子这件事，与我们每个人的终身幸福都是密不可分得。换句话说，我们要顺应时代的潮流，在茫茫人海中找到自己的另一半，与之结婚生子，完成好一个幸福人生，这必将会成为社会的主流，也是世在人为的本份。