1、要相信幸福原来那么简单,简单到像清水一样。
To believe that happiness is so simple, as simple as water
2、幸福是什么?幸福是一个谜,你让一千个人来回答,就会有一千种答案。
What is happiness Happiness is a mystery, you let one thousand people to answer, there will be one thousand kinds of answers
3、每一个人可能的最大幸福是在全体人所实现的最大幸福之中。
Each person may be the greatest happiness is the greatest happiness achieved by the whole people
4、自己是蓝色的,音乐是悠扬的,心情是透明的,灵魂是飞舞的。
He is blue, music is melodious, the mood is transparent, the soul is dancing
5、我也相信爱可以解除万难;只是,万难以后,又有万难。那是我更相信的。
I also believe that love can overcome all difficulties; but, after all, there are all kinds of hardships That's what I believe
6、看你躺在我怀里,开心的样子,就是我想要的幸福。
See you lie in my arms, happy appearance, is the happiness that I want
7、棒棒糖,是个想想就会裂开嘴角的奢侈品。
Is a lollipop, think it will split the mouth of luxury
8、春天没有花,人生没有爱,那还成个什么世界。
Spring without flowers, life is not love, it is also a world
9、爱的欢乐寓于爱之中,享受爱情比唤起爱更加令人幸福。
Love resides in the joy of love, love is more than happy to arouse love
10、把幸福让给别人,等于得到了双倍的幸福。
To give happiness to others, equal to the double happiness
11、幸福人生是需要三种姿态:对过去,要淡;对现在,要惜;对未来,要信。
Happy life need three posture: in the past, to light; for now, to cherish; for the future, to the letter
12、爱,直至成伤。之后就是永远。对不起,即使你感觉不到我。
Love until it hurts After that is forever I'm sorry, even if you don't feel me
13、知足就是幸福,它只是一种感觉,一种平和的感觉。
Contentment is happiness, it is just a feeling, a feeling of peace
14、为人类的幸福而劳动,这是多么壮丽的事业,这个目的有多麽伟大!
To work for the happiness of mankind, this is how magnificent the cause, the purpose of this is so great!
15、幸福就是两个人待在一起很舒服。
Happiness is two people together is very comfortable
16、看着你的眼,我看见了大海,蓝天;更看到了美丽的未来。
Looking at your eyes, I saw the sea, the blue sky; more to see the beautiful future
17、我们应有的生命,光环,都是每天可以拥有的幸福。
We should have the life, the aura, all can have the happiness every day
18、我不仰慕前世,也不期盼来生,我只求这辈子与你携手此生!
I do not admire the past life, do not look forward to the next life, I just want to work with you in this life!
19、一无所有的人是有福的,因为他们将获得一切!
Blessed are the people who have nothing, for they shall have everything!
20、爱比杀人重罪更难隐藏;爱情的黑夜有中午的阳光。
Love is more difficult to hide than the murder of a crime; the night of love has the sun at noon
21、爱情的欢乐虽然是甜美无比,但只有在光荣与美德存在的地方才能生存。
Love's joy is sweet, but only in the place where glory and virtue can exist
22、人在面临幸福时会突然变得胆怯,抓住幸福其实比忍受痛苦更需要勇气。
People will suddenly become timid in the face of happiness, to seize the happiness is actually more than the need to endure the pain of courage
23、那些曾经以为念念不忘的事情,就在我们念念不忘的过程里,被我们遗忘了。
Those who once thought never forget things, just as we remember in the process, we were forgotten
24、被人爱和爱别人是同样的幸福,而且一旦得到它,就够受用一辈子。
Is love and love of others is the same happiness, but once it was enough for a lifetime
25、当我向你倾诉我的烦恼的时候,那不是抱怨,那是我对你的完全的信任。
When I talk to you about my troubles, it's not a complaint, that's all I have to you
26、只要你每天给我一个幸福的拥抱,这是给我一天的安全感。
As long as you give me a happy hug every day, this is a day to give me a sense of security
27、不要浪费时间追忆失去的东西。要知道因为生命不会走回头路。
Don't waste time remembering what's lost To know that life will not go back
28、不是快乐就能分享,痛苦就能分担,其实,幸福是自己的,别看他人!
Not happy to share, the pain will be able to share, in fact, happiness is their own, do not look at others!
29、你笑一次,我就可以高兴好几天;可看你哭一次,我就难过了好几年。
You laugh once, I can be happy for several days; can see you cry once, I was sad for several years
30、只要不是心已累了,我想男人女人累着,也是快乐的吧。
As long as the heart is not tired, I think men and women are tired, but also happy
31、幸福越与人共享,它的价值越增加。
Happiness is shared with others, and its value is increased
32、别让幸福等太久,别让拥有变成遗憾;我们,再也不会从这里经过。
Don't let happiness wait for too long Don't let it become a pity
33、幸福是有限的,因为上帝的赐予本来就有限。
Happiness is limited, for God's gift is limited
34、对于世界而言,你是一个人;但是对于某个人,你是他的整个世界。
To the world you may be one person, but to one person you maybe the world。
35、只要是强求的,不管什么都没用。只要是心甘情愿的,不管如何都能接受。
As long as it is forced, no matter what is useless As long as it is willing, no matter how can accept
36、握紧了的手就不要放开、我懂的过了就不会回来。
Clenched hands do not let go, I understand the past will not come back
37、忘誓死不屈后的潇洒转身,谁此时的潸然的背离,谁此时的淡薄与吞噬。
Forget the swear unyielding and turn around, who moved to the departure, who at this time With phagocytosis
38、幸福不在怀念的过去,也不在追逐的未来,而在我们拥有的当下。
Happiness is not in the memory of the past, nor in the future, but in the moment we have
39、走在一起是缘分,一起在走是幸福。
Walking together is fate, together in the walk is happiness
40、幸福是,机场仍旧开放,电视里仍旧有人唱歌。
Happiness is, the airport is still open, there are still people singing on tv
41、如果你没办法不去爱一个不爱你的人,那是因为你还不懂得爱自己。
If you can't love someone who doesn't love you, it is because you still don't know how to love yourself
42、不要羡慕别人的人生,你看见的,不会是他们经历的所有。
Don't envy other people's life, you see, not all of their experiences
43、幸福,是两个人找遍地图上所有想去的地方,然后一起去。
Happiness, is the two person to find all the places on the map, and then go together
44、不要让钱成为障碍,好的生活没那么贵。动手去实现离你最近的可行梦想吧。
Don't let money become a barrier, good life is not so expensive Begin to achieve your most recent dream
45、幸福并不是一种完美和永恒,而是心灵和生活万物的一种感应和共鸣。
Happiness is not a kind of perfect and eternal, but the heart and life of a kind of induction and resonance
46、爱就是心疼,可以喜欢许多人,但真正心疼的只有一个。
Love is love dearly, can like many people, but only a real love
47、幸福是赤脚踏青,夏日清风,是秋日私语,是隆冬的火炉。
Happiness is the barefoot hikers, summer breeze, is autumn whispers, winter is the fire
48、心满意足享受每一点快乐,是走向幸福的唯一途径。
To enjoy every happiness, is the only way to happiness
49、小时候,幸福——是件很简单的事;长大后,简单——是件很幸福的事。
When I was young, happiness is a very simple thing When I grow up, simple, it is a very happy thing
50、能够说出的委屈,便不算委屈;能够抢走的爱人,便不算爱人。
Can say the grievance, will not be wronged; to take away the love, will not be considered a lover
51、笨人寻找远处的幸福,聪明人在脚下播种幸福。
The search for distant happiness, smart people at the foot of sowing happiness
52、真正的快乐是内在的,它只有在人类的心灵里才能发现。
True happiness is within, it can only be found in the human mind
53、快乐可依靠幻想,幸福却要依靠实际。
Happiness depends on fantasy, but happiness depends on reality
54、我也相信爱可以解除万难;只是,万难以后,又有万难。那是我更相信的。
I also believe that love can overcome all difficulties; but, after all, there are all kinds of hardships That's what I believe
55、幸福,只不过是想让快乐有一个存在下去的理由。
Happiness, just want to let happiness have a reason to exist
56、幸福五大原则:心中无恨;脑中无忧;生活简单;多些付出;少些期待。
Five principles of happiness: no hate in the heart; no worries in the mind; life is simple; pay more; expect less
57、在这世上珍贵的东西总是罕有,所以这世上只有一个你。
Precious things are very few in this world That is the reason there is just one you
58、是我太傻太天真,所谓的誓言你都做不到,我为何还要傻傻的保留着。
I was too silly too naive, the so-called oath you can not do, why I still have to keep the silly
59、低就一层不等于低人一等,今日的俯低是为了明天的高就。
Low layer is not inferior, today and tomorrow is to high and low
60、好不容易走到了一起,不知生活深浅的我们满怀信心,相信我们一定会幸福!
Finally come together, I do not know the depth of life, we are full of confidence, I believe we will be happy!
61、有些人注定是等待别人的,有些人是注定被人等的。
Some people are doomed to wait for others, some people are doomed to be waiting for
62、我梦想开一个小店,然后开始一边贩卖幸福,一边等你。
I dream of opening a store, and then start selling happiness, while waiting for you
63、爱情是一个平台,上面聚集着形形的人。
Love is a platform, which gathers all kinds of people
64、幸福就是,可以欣赏周围所有的美好并将痕迹留在心里。
Happiness is, you can enjoy all the good and the traces left in the heart
65、一个是华丽短暂的梦,一个是残酷漫长的现实。
One is a gorgeous short dream, one is the brutal long reality
66、倒不是真的有多爱你,只是不想再寻寻觅觅。
Not really love you, just don't want to search again
67、不是唱到一半的我假砚忘旋律,只是词人太细腻描述和。
I don't sing half a song melody to Ptend to forget, just for you and I describe the CI too delicate
68、懂得珍惜身边所拥有的一切,这就是人生中最大的幸福。
Know how to cherish all around, this is the greatest happiness in life
69、人类的一切努力的目的在于获得幸福。
The purpose of all human efforts is to obtain happiness
70、失败时有人伸出一只手来为你擦泪,会好过成功时无数人伸手为你鼓掌。
When someone fails to reach out a hand to wipe tears for you, will be better than the success of countless people hand for you
71、一分钟心动,一小时喜欢,一天爱上。忘记他,却是一辈子。
A minute to move, an hour to like, a day to fall in love with Forget him, but it is a lifetime
72、爱情里面要是搀杂了和它本身无关的算计,那就不是真的爱情。
Love it if it is mingled with regards itself, it is not true love
73、爱情不在了就要学会宽容,毕竟也相遇一场。
Love is not in the need to learn tolerance, after all, also met a
74、幸福就是,坚持了应该坚持的,放弃了应该放弃的。
Happiness is, insist on should adhere to, give up should give up
75、幸福就是人生,人生就是幸福。
Happiness is life, life is happiness
76、能随时随地居心灵去品味生活的味道,才有幸福可言。
Can anytime, anywhere in the heart to taste the taste of life, there is happiness
77、现在吃棒棒糖不是为了掩饰忧伤,而是想再品尝到童真的快乐。
Now eat lollipop not to hide sadness, but want to enjoy the happiness of childhood
78、爱情正是一个将一对陌生人变成情侣,又将一对情侣变成陌生人的游戏。
Love is a pair of strangers become lovers, and a pair of lovers into a stranger's game
79、单纯的生活,其实很快乐;傻傻的活着,其实很幸福。
Simple life, in fact, very happy; silly to live, in fact, very happy
80、把别人的幸福当做自己的幸福,把鲜花奉献给他人,把棘刺留给自己!
The happiness of others as their own happiness, flowers given to others, left to their own thorns!
1、拥有一切,未必幸福;敢问一切,才会幸福。
I have everything, not necessarily happiness; everything will be happy
2、幸福是要靠自己创造的。
Happiness is to rely on their own creation
3、只有整个人类的幸福才是你的幸福。
Only the whole human happiness is your happiness
4、爱情里面要是搀杂了和它本身无关的算计,那就不是真的爱情。
Love it if it is mingled with regards itself, it is not true love
5、把幸福的希望放在未来,我的脚步才能移动。
Put the hope of happiness in the future, my steps to move
6、人生最好的东西总是和最坏的连在一起,幸福的极致往往是悲哀。幸福是短暂的,当人们想抓住它时,它已经走远了。
The best things in life are always with the worst, the ultimate happiness is often sad Happiness is short, when people want to catch it, it has gone far
7、你觉得你幸福你就是幸福的,幸福与不幸福都在你自己的心中。
You feel you are happy, you are happy, happiness and unhappiness in your own heart
8、知足就是幸福,它只是一种感觉,一种平和的感觉。
Contentment is happiness, it is just a feeling, a feeling of peace
9、看着微笑的,突然发现,我真是世界上最幸福的人。
Looking at you smile, suddenly found that I was the happiest person in the world
10、我在闹,你在笑,这就是幸福。
I am in trouble, you are laughing, this is happiness
11、快乐可依靠幻想,幸福却要依靠实际。
Happiness depends on fantasy, but happiness depends on reality
12、正像我们无权只享受财富而不创造财富一样,我们也无权只享受幸福而不创造幸福。
Just as we have no right to consume wealth without producing it, we have no right to consume happiness without producing it
13、如果痛苦换来的是结识真理、坚持真理,就应自觉地欣然承受,那时,也只有那时,痛苦才将化为幸福。
If the pain is to get to know the truth, adhere to the truth, it should be willingly bear, then, only then, the pain will be happy
14、美满的爱情,使斗士紧绷的心情松弛下来。
Happy love, so that the tension of the fighter relaxed down
15、对于大多数人来说,他们认定自己有多幸福,就有多幸福。
For most people, how happy they are, how happy they are
16、生活中最大的幸福是坚信有人爱我们。
The great happiness of life is the conviction that we are loved
17、如果幸福在于的快感,那麽就应当说,牛找到草料吃的时候是幸福的。
If happiness is a pleasure, it should be said that the cattle find happiness when eating grass
18、幸福时代的到来,不会象睡了一宵就是明天那样。
The arrival of the era of happiness, not like sleep a night is like tomorrow
19、幸福是无拘无束没有任何负担的心理。
Happiness is free without any burden of the psychological
20、幸福不是对往昔的回忆,幸福是对未来的憧憬。
Happiness is not a memory of the past, happiness is a vision of the future
21、最幸福的人,拥有的不是最好的东西,拥有的是自己本该想有的东西。
The happiest of people have the best of everything, they have the things they want to do
22、为了要活得幸福,我们应当相信幸福的可能。
In order to live a happy life, we should believe that happiness is possible
23、最好的幸福、是把一个人记住,最好的辛苦、是想你想到哭,最好的满足、是你给我的在乎,爱受了些苦才变得铭心刻骨!
The best happiness, is to a person remember, the best hard, think you want to cry, best meet, is your care for me, loved a pain becomes deep-rooted!
24、别让幸福等太久,别让拥有变成遗憾;我们,再也不会从这里经过。
Don't let happiness wait for too long Don't let it become a pity
25、当你幸福的时候,切勿丧失使你成为幸福的德行。
When you are happy, do not lose the virtue that makes you happy
26、幸福是杂音听起来象音乐,因为快乐而哭泣。
Happiness is a noise that sounds like music, it's a joy to cry
27、我把我的一切都给了你,你笑了,就是幸福!
I gave my everything to you, you smiled, is happiness!
28、一无所有的人是有福的,因为他们将获得一切!
Blessed are the people who have nothing, for they shall have everything!
29、应该多行善事,为了做一个幸福的人。
Should do more good, in order to be a happy person
30、彼此相爱就是幸福。如此简单,如此难。
To love one another is to be happy So simple, so hard
31、幸福不是写在脸上,而是心灵深处的东西。
Happiness is not in the face, but in the heart
32、我是广大劳苦大众当中的一员,我能帮助人民克服一点困难,是最幸福的。
I am a member of the general working people, I can help the people to overcome a little difficult, is the most happy
33、不错,达到生活中真实幸福的最好手段,是像蜘蛛那样,漫无限制地从自身向四面八方撒放有粘力的爱的蛛网,从中随便捕捉落到网上的一切。
Good, achieve the best means in real life happiness, is like a spider, diffuse unrestricted from their own to sPad in all directions with cobweb of viscous force of love, from any capture fell on the Internet all
34、快乐没有本来就是坏的,但是有些快乐的产生者却带来了比快乐大许多倍的烦扰。
Happiness is not inherently bad, but some joyful production has brought many times more disturbing than happy
35、能随时随地居心灵去品味生活的味道,才有幸福可言。
Can anytime, anywhere in the heart to taste the taste of life, there is happiness
36、能把自己生命的终点和起点,联接起来的人,是最幸福的人。
Can put their own life and starting point, the connection of the people, is the most happy people
37、有时候,离去不是一个简单的转身,而是,一辈子的幸福。
Sometimes, leaving is not a simple turn around, but a lifetime of happiness
38、幸福是看出来的,痛苦是悟出来的。
Happiness is to see, the pain is to realize
39、有生活的时候就有幸福。
When there is life, there is happiness
40、凡是创造自己幸福的人,应该做全体工人和农民的幸福的匠人和创造者。当他成为一切人幸福的匠人时,他就会成为自己自身幸福的匠人了。
Those who create their own happiness, should do all the workers and farmers of the builders and creators of happiness When he became all happy when he will become their builders, builders have their own happiness
41、幸福是知他懂他信他爱你宠你疼你,毫无疑问。
Happiness is knowing that he knows he believes he loves you pet you hurt you, no doubt
42、幸福就是无论何时何地,那一个人的心永远与你贴在一起。
Happiness is no matter when and where, that a person's heart will always be with you
43、痛苦的秘密在于有闲功夫担心自己是否幸福。
The secret of being miserable is to have leisure to bother about whether you are happy or not
44、上帝所做的、胜过一切想象中的幸福行为,莫过于纯粹的思考,而人的行为中最接近这种幸福的东西,也许是与思考最密切的活动。
What God has done is better than the happiness of all imagination It is more than pure thought, but the most close to the happiness of man's behavior is perhaps the most intimate activity of thinking
45、我们爱幸福,幸福爱我们。
We love happiness, love us
46、所有的痛苦都来自选择,所谓幸福,就是没有选择。
All the pain comes from the choice, the so-called happiness, that is, there is no choice
47、要相信幸福原来那么简单,简单到像清水一样。
To believe that happiness is so simple, as simple as water
48、幸福这东西,一点不符合牛顿的惯性定律,总是在滑行得最流畅的时候戛然而止。剩下的事情就是锻炼你的承受能力了。
Happiness is something, a bit does not accord with Newton's law of inertia, is always at a time when most smooth glide abruptly The rest of the thing is to exercise your ability to withstand
49、每一个人可能的最大幸福,是在全体人所实现的最大幸福之中。
Each person may be the greatest happiness, is in the realization of the greatest happiness among all
50、书籍使我变成了一个幸福的人,使我的生活变成轻快而舒适的诗,好像新生活的钟声在我的生活鸣响了。
Books make me become a happy person, make my life into poetry in brisk and comfortable, like a new life bells are ringing in my life the
在密关系中冲突不可怕
回避冲突才可怕
学会直面冲突,一直是经营关系的重要一课。
01、回避冲突也是一种冷暴力
你以为的“忍气吞声”是别人眼中的“冷暴力”
一时逃避一时爽,一直逃避一直爽。
是现代情侣的不二法则。
不可否认,有些时候回避冲突是有益的。
比如半夜“下班路上遇到的:喝醉后发酒疯乱骂人的酒鬼;公交车上猛踩你一脚却装作若无其事的人。
一句“算了算了不和ta计较”,可以保护我们的情绪资源,不被无关紧要的人或事消耗。
可如果,眼前这个向你发出语言攻击的人,是你朝夕相处的伴侣、亲密无间的朋友时。
就算你逃过了这次,下次也很有可能会崩溃败走。
02、习惯性回避冲突
你不可能在最亲密的人面前,伪装一辈子。
如果一次又一次地“习惯性回避冲突”,压抑自我真实的感受与需求:
明明不喜欢他评价自己的外貌,却不提出来;明明会在他嫌弃你邋遢的时候生气沮丧,却不表达。
很多时候,我们“不想惹事”的初衷,在对方眼里,却是一场不折不扣的冷暴力。
当我们“好心”回避冲突时,很可能给对方带来这样的感受:
“我的情绪被ta忽略了。”"ta不在 乎我的感受。““ta并不想解决我俩之间的问题。”
这种看似讨好、不挑事儿的态度,其实是在破坏我们与对方爱的联结。
03、不吵架也是缺乏沟通
你的不满即便不说,对方也能感觉出来不吵架,不意味着没有冲突,也不意味着冲突解决。
哪怕两个人在各个方面都完美契合,也会存在矛盾冲突。
而从不吵架,恰恰是意味着两个人缺乏沟通交流的动机:“ 我对你有不满,但我连说都不想说了。"
但事实是,即使你不说,对方也能察觉到你的这种不满。
不管是在心里,还是在实际的交往中,这种不满都会让你把ta推远。
04、拒绝进行沟通
感情不好才吵架,是对亲密关系最大的误解。
婚姻咨询领域的心理学家Gottman曾经做了一项长达6年的追踪研究,研究对象是130对新婚夫妻。
他试图通过对日常互动模式的观察,去找到最能影响婚姻幸福感的因素,也就是幸福婚姻的密码。
结果非常令人意外:婚姻幸福感最低的,并不是那些天天吵架的夫妻,而是那些从不吵架的夫妻。
与此同时,他也发现了一种最能预测离婚率的互动模式:夫妻一方以责令的姿态开始讲话(harsh
start-up),另一方则拒绝进行任何沟通交流。也就是“一遇到冲突,就回避冲突”
Gottman指出:真正危害到两个人关系的,并不是冲突本身,而是我们彼此对待冲突的态度。
05、听对方把话说完
吵架吵赢,可以让冲突成为关系助推器你可以把冲突解读为“我们的关系遇到了问题”;你也可以把它解读为“这是一次推动关系发展的契机”。
但我们可以试着从最简单的做起,慢慢来。
01:听对方把话说完。
如果你之前一吵架就想逃离现场,或者解除线上好友关系,那么你最开始需要做的,只是冷静地听对方把话说完。
他或许会说一些攻击你的话、让你很沮丧。
但我们这个阶段的目的并不是战胜他、吵赢他,我们的目标是让自己在冲突发生时,还能够站在这里,不逃避。
06、谈谈自己的感受和观点
02:谈谈自己的感受和观点。
如果你觉得第一步已经游刃有余,接下来,你可以试着在他说完话之后,谈谈自己的感受和观点。
举个例子:“当你在我面前,说别人比我好看的时候,我挺不开心的。”而不是“你整天就知道pua,我要和你分手。"
前一种表达方式的好处是,它聚焦到了具体问题上。
这样才能让对方知道,自己要如何针对性地改进;
而后一种表达方式,只会让对方一-头雾水地去百科什么是pua,然后还不知道自己错在哪里。
07、吵架要有成果
03:对ta表示一下关心(然后继续吵)
如果你害怕自己“积极参与吵架”的态度伤害到对方,你也可以吵到一半的时候对ta表示一下关心、支持(然后再继续吵架)。
“看见你不开心,我连吃饭都不香了。你能和我说说原因吗”“ 你刚刚那么用力拍桌子,手疼吗“”我并不是真的想吵架,但如果关系遇到了问题,我希望我们能一起努力去解决。”
总之,吵架不易,一定要吵得有成果才行。
让自己的情绪感受得到充分表达的同时,也尊重并试着倾听对方的想法和感受。
08、结语
害怕冲突不是懦弱的表现,只是你之前的勇气没有获得好的回应。
心理咨询师Erin Leonard认为,习惯性回避冲突,
其实是我们面对‘不安全”客体时,发展出来的一种防御机制。
回避冲突,是当时弱小的我们,面对强大力量时无可奈何的应对措施。
它在那段时间保护过我们。可 是现在我们已经强大到,有力量去自己解决冲突了。
我们要明白,如果想要获得健康、深厚的亲密关系,就必须摒弃掉从前那个被恐惧摄住的自己。
要知道,学会面对、解决冲突是勇敢和聪明的表现。
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